Choices

1 Hour Facebook Smackdown!

choice in frameThis month we are focusing in on our choices and what it looks like to make good choices in a world serving junk. We are specifically focused on our choices in these areas:

  • Food
  • Social media
  • Self care
  • Time

This week we are going to confront social media and specifically Facebook. You ready? Time for some self reflection.

While I know Facebook has redeeming qualities such as connecting families across the globe, promoting businesses and discovering that the Christmas present your child is begging for happens to be on massive sale right now I have also come to conclusion that Facebook can be as hurtful and harmful of an addiction for women as porn is for men. I promise you I don’t take that comparison lightly.

Through coaching I listen to women daily who are addicted to this visually stimulating thing that comes across their computer screen, phone or tablet and they use it. They use it to seek out affirmation, validation, relationship and entertainment. But most of all they use it as an escape from reality. Many of the same adjectives people would use to describe what is sick about why men use porn, huh? Stings a bit to think about it in that light.

Facebook and social media are here to stay if not get larger and louder in our lives so how do we learn to manage them in ways that are good and health?

1 Corinthians 612

“I have the right to do anything,” you say – but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything” – but will not be mastered by anything.” 1 Corinthians 6:12

How do we allow God to remain our master and not allow ourselves to be mastered by social media?

I believe the first step is developing your social media plan.

Why are you there?

Are you helping grandparents that are far way stay connected to their grand kids, networking, looking for advice and ideas, entertainment through games, or seeking encouragement and accountability?

Declare your Facebook intention.

Here is mine:  I am on facebook to share photos and stay connected with my family in Texas and California. I am there to encourage women through providing resources.

Once you know your why you can begin to evaluate the times you get off track and find yourself wandering off course.

In the evenings, when it is just me up and I am supposed to be working, I can find myself checking on one thing, that leads to a new click, which sends me to a new site, that sends me discovering a new blog, that has an ad for something I was curious about and ½ hour later I am wondering where all my time has gone to get work done or go to bed ON TIME!!! Why do I do this? I do it because I am tired and I lose focus. I shouldn’t be on Facebook late at night…thus my Choices goal of hitting the sack by 10 p.m. nightly.

Facebook when not used with good intention brings out ugly. Amen? It causes us to waste time, play comparison games, seek validation, avoid our family, brush off our children, and be busy when all our souls really desire is rest.

fbsmackdown

So I am declaring a daily 1 hour Facebook Smackdown Challenge! (#fbsmackdown)

By joining the challenge you are making a comittment to spend a maximum of 1 hour on Facebook daily.

photoI plan to do this by breaking this in to 3 sections of the day.

Morning = 15 minutes max

Afternoon = 15 minutes max

Evening = 30 minutes max

I will use the stopwatch on my phone to keep track of my usage through the day. I have been practicing this week to make sure I was giving you a good idea and while it did work I would highly suggest removing the Facebook app from your phone and only tracking yourself on an actually computer. It is easier visually to stay on top of your goal. I would also suggest having an app like You Version or She Read Truth replace where your FB app was on  your phone so that when you fingers start moving to do something on your phone you can go straight there.

 

If you would like to join me in the #fbsmackdown Challenge you can sign up here.

I will keep sign ups open through the week and then by Monday, September 15th I will send out a Google Drive accountability sheet where you can track your progress along with everyone else (no last names revealed) participating including myself. The goal is going to be 30 days! I would encourage you to invite a friend to join you. Accountabilty is going to be key. And I would encourage you to come up with your own reward. Mine is a pedicure because this is going to be a biggie so it deserves a big reward.

If this makes you nervous then give it a shot and just see…just see what freedom looks like once you give permission for God to be the only master over your day.

  • I’d join you, but I gave up Facebook last June. One of the best choices I ever made. Kudos to you for striving to own Facebook, rather than the other way around!

    • Good for you!!! Hope you will continue encouraging the same in others!!!

  • Sarah

    I’d love to join! Question, is the form we fill out made public? Just wondering :)

    • Sarah- All the information collected will stay private with me but I will be making a public spread sheet with first name and last initial for you to check off that you met your goal for the day. I will be sending you the link to the spreadsheet via email but again that information will stay solely with me.

  • Shonda Knowlton

    I am so glad you are doing this. I have been struggling with takng time off from social media. I am a SAHM and I recently started homeschooling so I’m home with my kids all day and my only outlet is wasting time on Facebook. But I get so mad that I can’t get anything else done like projects, reading, chores and having fun with my family. I have taken a week off of the computer awhile back and it felt great. I have let go of a lot of commitments that require time on the computer. I know I can limit my time and I like your ideas. I want to stop feeling so guilty and unproductive. My biggest problem is that what I log on the computer I open up my gmail, Facebook and my blog windows. I don’t have much trouble with my phone time, but I do check it often even though I don’t stay on. I tend to spend more time on FB when I’m on the computer and I keep checking it. I feel like I’m “missing” out. I know I’m not. I can’t wait to take this challenge and see how God is going to change my priorities and life. Thank you for taking this bold step to help us be more intentional about our choices. As you said, this stuff is here to stay so we need to know how to balance it in our lives. I just reviewed Growing Up Social by Arlene Pellicane and Dr. Gary Chapman. I think we as adults who did not grow up with social media need to be taught before we can teach our kids.

    • Thanks for all your thoughts Shonda and your openness about how hard it is. I love the perspective of getting our ducks in a row so that we can teach our kids a health use of this tool. So glad you are joining in. We will do this together.

      • Shonda Knowlton

        Sounds good!!