Dating God

I need to be dating God.

CB and EB date night

Valentines weekend I went on a special date with Mr. Bailey.

This past weekend we went on a double date with some of our besties.

Friday night I am headed out for a girl’s night to celebrate a friend’s birthday.

Each month I make an effort to take each kiddo on a date even if that means I just take one of them with me to Target.

We all hear and read how dating is important and valuable to maintaining relationships, right? We date so that we have one on one time with our spouse without interruption, so they can see us showered, and so that we can eat out at some place that serves more than nuggets and fries.  We do it to create memories, re-connect, and perhaps make a new discovery. Dating is good. I am a fan!

But it hit me sometime on Saturday between a soccer game, a trip to the Disney Store with Grandma, and homework (yep, I am a student again) that I prioritize on the calendar all these “dates” but you know who I should be dating?

God.

Yep, you read that right.

God and I should be dating.

Jesus did say “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:37

We have our daily time in the morning, I am in constant communication through prayer, I am in active ministry so it is not like we are distant from each other but just like the above relationships God and I should also be setting aside memory making time. We need to do things that intentionally draw us closer and allow discovery.  Instead of trying a new restaurant it could look like an act of service, instead of a trip to a Vegas it could look like a day retreat of quiet (I know, I know as moms we don’t really know the definition of that word anymore), instead of a concert it could be a commitment to listen to worship music all day.

A weekend at a local retreat center, laying on the grass with a sketch pad in hand, hot tea and a book by Henri Nouwen used to be regular in my life but then came a husband and two kids (wouldn’t trade them for the world) but the point is things got BUSY. So busy that God helped me create Cravings {The Devotional} so that all moms that feel busy can get God time. But here I am as a wife, mom of two littles, Children’s Director, student, speaker, writer, and a few more things on my list saying it is time.

Time to ask God on a date.

god date grphc

It is time to set aside space on the calendar to connect in new ways. How? When? Where? I will plan it. Just as I plan for soccer games, game night, hubby date night, and me time I can plan on God dates. Because let’s face it mamas we can’t do this motherhood thing without Him.

Every day I choose to place Him before anything thing else on my “to-do list that never ends” I find peace, I find I am slower to react, I find more laughter in our home, and I find purpose in all the DOING.

Soooo here we go. We are going to date God in the midst of motherhood. Do you have your calendars out?

I am thinking I will come up with a Top Ten God Dates list. Do you have a favorite God date I can include?

  • Kim @ myheartandyours

    How about getting a hotel room for a night and spending it with God. Journal, Bible, cozy clothes, possibly on a beach or around nature so you can take a walk. Just one night. Refreshed.
    http://www.myheartandyours.org/
    Kim :)

    • @c2b1f53ee04f6df7d79ed34a7b533ab3:disqus  – That sounds magnificent! Soooo many good deals on Groupon and other sites to tap into. Great idea! 

  • Carrie Fay

    Love this whole post!  Thank you :)

    • @7f0e1799f6eebf80d9f21d456999eaf0:disqus  – Yay! Dating God does make us sound like we are the bomb, right? 

  • I used to do this every month for years. I’d take my Bible, music, journal, stuff to write with, cards, a Christian book or resource I was studying through… a good coffee and a healthy lunch. I’d actually go to the parent room at our church (where parents go during the service if their babies are fussy so they can still hear and see the service). I’d spend the whole day in there… and it was still never long enough. 

    As my kids grew up I included them in it actually. I made a “day of prayer” sheet and we would pray and read Scripture and memorize and spend time in God’s presence at the same time. Sometimes we’d be in the same room, sometimes they’d go to their own rooms. 

    I think a monthly date with God is a fabulous idea… and I found it changed my life, my parenting, my marriage and my relationship with God.

    • @133906da0b2cab59fab1fc4c234c520b:disqus  – Wow! Great tips and tricks. Thanks for sharing! Smart to use a spot that is free and won’t tempt you like a Starbucks or bookstore would! 

  • Love this and can’t wait to see your top ten list! 

    My favs: 
    picnic lunch with a prayer journal (listing thanks)
    Starbucks with Bible and journal
    Lakeside (or any water) and a book
    Stargazing on my back and singing (fav times of worship!)

    • Oohhhh @gingercim:disqus your list is sounding delightful! Thankful for my fellow God dater. 

  • MerryMary.org

    I totally agree! For any relationship to grow, it takes time, commitment and intention. I think I may take it for granted that God isn’t going to leave me if I put Him on the back burner. But He needs to be my no.1 priority in order for my other important relationships can flourish. Thanks for your thoughtful reminder.

    • @ec488166e63355933ecec93207ebe150:disqus  – Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I am so thankful He never leaves us even if we put Him on the back burner. Hoping the post inspired a God date for you on the horizon. 

  • Visiting for the first time from the God-sized Dream Team. Love the site, title and look. (Of course, I’m a sucker for sweet things, so that helps!) Dating God is a great idea. I like a quiet walk in the woods with God–I’m heading to my parents’ farm this weekend, and I think I’ll do just that:)

    • @twitter-93410881:disqus  – Thank you fellow Dreamer for stopping by! Have fun on your God date this weekend. A visit on a farm sounds fabulous!