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Navigating the Hard Days

navigating hard times

I am moving. Geesh! There, I finally said it in an official kind of way.

And I don’t mean moving my blog address or moving down the street. I mean moving 865 miles from Phoenix, Arizona to Denver, Colorado. (Anyone need a house in Phoenix?)

EVERYONE has assured me that I will LOVE Denver and thanks to the Allume Community I have been welcomed and connected to what seem like amazing people in the Denver area but the reality is my heart is happy and content  in Phoenix where I have resided and built a life for the last 17 years. I don’t have one complaint about where I live. YEP! You won’t even hear me complain about the 122 degree summers because I am from Texas and if you have known 99% humidity with 100 degree heat then 122 with no humidity is nothing! The phrase “It is a dry heat.” is real, people!

So why move you ask? For at least 8 months my husband and I, along with a community of people, have been praying for an open door to a job where my husband would feel a sense of purpose and fulfillment in what he does. And that door opened…it just happens to be a door located in Denver. (We failed to mention in our request that the door was supposed to be in Phoenix. I kinda just assumed God knew. Lesson learned!)

We feel confirmed that this is the door to walk through but that doesn’t mean it is not hard to leave behind a group of girlfriends that know me inside and out, pull my kids away from two sets of grandparents , walk away from the small group we lead that was just building momentum. It doesn’t means it’s not hard to think about finding a new church when we have one that is “just right” for us. Oh, and don’t get me started on finding a new school for my kiddos. Figuring out Kindergarten last year felt painful enough. The thought of doing that all over again feels like being forced to eat liver and onions or swimming with sharks. Then you throw in selling and packing up my house that brings me comfort and joy and I just about teeter over the edge…STOP THE MADDNESS! I have cried more in the last 25 days than in all of 2014 I would guess.

In the tears my husband always reminds me that we don’t have to do this. He assures me that he is willing to stop packing boxes and begin looking for a job in Phoenix. Every time I say… just because it is hard now doesn’t mean it is not going to be good.

Hard today does not mean there won’t be good tomorrow. 

What is your “hard now” thing?

I am thankful for the biblical examples that goes before me. People who have taken “hard” and found the good; Jochebed releasing Moses, Ruth choosing Naomi, Rahab throwing the rope, Joseph accepting Mary and the ultimate in Jesus bearing the weight of our sin. Without the Mighty One God and His perspective on this transition I would be an utter train wreck of a girl right now. But as the sun rises and sets I am reminded of His power.

Psalm 50 - 2 final

Getting to the land of good is going to mean navigating the hard days well.

For me it is a move. What is it for you?

  • A marriage that feels hard?
  • Kids that feels hard?
  • A job that feels hard?
  • A financial situation that feels hard?

How are you going to navigate the hard days well so that you can see the good?

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  • Praying for you today Carey. You know I get this. The tears, the conflicting emotions, the doubts and all the uncertainty — it’s real and God is with you in it. Transition is like looking in a foggy mirror, you can’t quite remember who you are and I think that is the point of it. When you get through it, clarity comes and you won’t look the same as you used to, you will see yourself differently and better. Hang in there my friend. Sending a big hug. xxxx

    • So grateful to be surrounded by people who “get it” and finding so much hope in your journey! Thank you!! London or bust for you!

  • Kellyn D.

    Oh girl. Praying for you. The thought of all of this makes my stomach hurt. But you so have this!! God needs you to shine your light in Denver. I lived in Boulder for a year after college and it might be my favorite place on earth. Keep us posted and in the meantime I will pray for God to open doors along the way. Blessings!!

    • Thanks! I am excited to experience the love everyone has for this place. I hear nothing but good. I will be closer to Newton, KS for that eventual reunion. :)

  • Sweet friend, I’m praying for you as you make this hard transition. Even when you know it’s good, the unknown and overwhelming logistics make it so, so hard. Sending lots of love and prayers your way. And, my fingers are crossed I’ll get to see you this summer. We’ll be in your new neck-of-the-woods in June/July. xoxo

    • Right, it is that unknown that has so much sting. Trust! is my current mantra. The unknown has no power if I hang out with the trust. Thanks for your love and encouragement.

  • “Hard today does not mean there won’t be good tomorrow.” His good is good. Thank you for reminding us all as you walk this out! xoxo

    • Thankful for being able to walk it with you!! Grateful.

  • Eva Hagan

    What an exciting (and slightly terrifying!) time for the Bailey fam! Phoenix will miss you. I will miss you. But I’m praying this will be an amazing transition for all four of you. Wishing you all kinds of blessings on your new adventure!

    • Thanks Eva girl! What will a PJ Party be without the Hagan Crew??? Oh my, now I am going to cry over the fact that we will miss the PJ Party!!! ;-)

  • I tend to get so caught in the hard moments that I tend to feel it will be hard FOREVER. This is such a good reminder for my soul – that tomorrow brings new mercies and He doesn’t leave us in the hard. The hard place is not our end place.